Relationship Counselling & Dating Advice for Individuals

Should you stay in this relationship?

Does your partner meet some of your needs but you are not sure if you feel fulfilled in the relationship? Do you find yourself looking outside the relationship and wondering if other people could meet your needs?  Do you start to wonder if the bad times outweigh the good times with your partner?

It’s a common dilemma to feel as though your partner is too good to break up with but also too bad to stay with. Being able to discern and make an informed decision about your relationship choice is important, as there are many factors to work out. Our therapists can help you take a step-by-step approach to decide if you are happy with your partner choice or if you would prefer to change.

If you stay together, how can you make it work?

Do you find you end up getting into disagreements with your partner when your intention was to improve something?

Most of us were never taught how to be in a healthy and happy relationship. When you consider how long you spend learning a new skill or training for your career and compare that to how much study time has been spent learning about relationships, it becomes apparent that more information and time might be needed to learn about being in a relationship. Talking to a trained therapist who works with and studies relationships for a living can give your relationship the boost it might need.

Learning communication skills and understanding how attachment and love bonds work can give you a roadmap for how to improve your relationship. Without those assets, it can often feel like you are navigating in the dark. We can help you get there.

When you feel safe and secure with your partner, the challenges of daily living can seem easier to handle.

Frustrated with dating?

Do you struggle with patterns that prevent you from finding the loving partnership you’ve been dreaming of?  Is it difficult to meet the right people? Do you find yourself settling for less than you deserve? Does dating seem too difficult, too scary, to contemplate at all? If you’d like to enjoy a full, rich love life, our therapists can help. 

Our experienced therapists will teach you the skills you need to date successfully, as well as how to communicate effectively with a partner once you’ve found one.

Dating anxiety?

Modern dating is tough. Putting yourself out there means facing your own fear of rejection, facing any fears you might have about commitment, and facing fears about rejecting and disappointing other people.

Even asking can be fraught – and the anxiety doesn’t necessarily go away after the date ends, especially if you’ve had bad experiences in the past.

Our therapists give you a safe place to address these anxieties while teaching you the skills you need to overcome them. We can suggest new dating avenues to explore, if you’d like.  With our help, you can feel safe and confident while navigating the dating landscape.

Overcoming limerance

Do you find yourself constantly attracted to people who are emotionally or physically unavailable?

Unrequited love can happen to anyone, but a pattern of unrequited attachments can indicate you suffer from a trauma pattern called limerance. 

Limerance can keep you from finding a healthy, loving relationship with a partner who is excited to be with you! Our therapists can help you understand the underlying causes of your limerance while offering strategies to overcome and change these issues.

No more awkward, painful confessions that wreck friendships. No more crying over someone who doesn’t even know you’re alive. No more bending over backwards for people who are happy to take advantage of your attention and desire to please them but who never intend to bring you into their lives.

Attachment problems?

Do you struggle to forge healthy, lasting relationships – and then to keep them going?

Do you find it easy to date but hard to commit? Do you struggle with communication, insecurity, or the desire to push your partner away? 

Often, negative childhood experiences can form attachment issues which continue to threaten our relationships well into our adult lives. Our therapists can help you recognize the emotional triggers and responses which cause you to lash out, pull away, or act destructively, and can provide ongoing skills training to help you choose new, healthier actions in the future.

Learn how to trust yourself and your partner. Learn how to get your needs met without causing fights. Heal yourself and your relationships so you can enjoy the healthy life you deserve. Our therapists are ready to help.